Comments on: CafeMom Discriminates Against Dads

By: Sam

Sam — Wed, 13 Jan 2016 04:42:20 +0000

As former long time member over there, trust me when I tell you that you don’t want to be part of that site. Just look at the public posts on the site. They advocate hate towards men, fight all the time, and is full of cyber bullies. They are not talking bettering their parenting skills, but are ignoring their children to argue with ever1yone. They have a low rating on site jabber for a reason and send their little minions like Blue up above to promote their pathetic site. Most of the “members” are fake accounts made by the bullies on the site.

By: Jenifer

Jenifer — Tue, 28 May 2013 06:29:31 +0000

as a member of cafemom, i apologize profusely! i’ve heard of this happening and i just don’t understand it! personally, i see it as sexism and it’s not right. i think that dads, especially SAHD’s and single dads should be welcomed there with open arms. unless they start a site similar for dads only. i’m just… gah! i don’t even know what to say other than i’m sorry.

By: blues_pagan

blues_pagan — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 19:03:38 +0000

I am a group owner over in Cafemom and have been there since I had my daughter almost 2 years ago.
I can say this, I am kind of happy that it is a woman’s only site. I discuss somethings there that I wouldn’t want to discuss with a man. Mainly because they probably wouldn’t understand. I was a babycenter member for a while but I found that the women there are way more tame, mainly due to the rules and restrictions there but also because you just can’t let loose when you know you are also talking to men in the group.
Sorry they didn’t accept you to the group but I think it is slightly asinine to sit and think that CafeMOM is discriminatory when it caters to women.
(As for the comment about transgender men and women, we have them in there. I know of one member who is a transgender woman to man. he is very much accepted especially since he gave birth. I follow his story on his overall transformation and so do many others).

By: Joanne

Joanne — Tue, 30 Oct 2012 22:11:59 +0000

Hey now, I’m a member of Cafemom, it’s a site for women. Women need to have girl talk sometimes and vent about you guys. I wonder would I be allowed to join a man’s group?

By: Jason

Jason — Tue, 30 Oct 2012 01:02:22 +0000

Its called Cafe MOM. I would expect for it to be only for moms and women. My girl is obsessed with that site but I wouldn’t want to join it because I am yet to sprout a pussy. I would join a dad site.

By: samantha

samantha — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 19:33:24 +0000

why would you want to join a site for women? Why not just join a dads site?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 06:03:06 +0000

I would prefer to pretend cafemom is all women. I (and I’m sure others) would not feel comfortable posting some of the things I do if men were also allowed in the forums. It’s just like men not being allowed in the women’s restroom to me I guess.

By: SavageMom86

SavageMom86 — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 02:15:00 +0000

I love cafemom. :-P

By: Jecca

Jecca — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 01:46:38 +0000

The site is pretty nasty. When it first started it was a place for women to get support from people when they had no other support or anyone to talk to girl to girl. But over the years it has become fulled with hateful, heartless, hurtful people. Women who would never say a word to anyones face in public all of a sudden has a whole lot to say to someone who has different views.

you cannot raise your children different, you cannot watch different shows, you cannot be YOURSELF without being attack and jumped all over for doing so.
It is now a site for women who have no lives and only crave the drama and plain evilness that comes from all the negative attention they are giving and getting.

Things about people needing advice or a death of a loved one or things that are happy and positive and nice are ignored and only the posts about the lady next door who yells a lot, or the dick head at the store who used food stamps while he looked at his blackberry, and gossip posts get the attention.
And god forbid you have any other view than what the majority of the women on there think you should have.

The creators and moderators are doing nothing to remedy it and I see nothing be negativity bring the website crashing and burning.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 18:27:28 +0000

Men join anyway. They just keep it to themselves and participate in a productive way in the discussions. Most of the topics are general topics anyone can talk about. In some cases a male perspective would be welcome. I’m positive they are getting more than a few without realizing it.

If the women there think there’s no men because of the website title, then they are very naive. Text on a screen is not a physical barrier. And just because some has a set of boobs doesn’t make them trustworthy to tell personal info to. Women can be “evil”, as well. And we’re all strangers there.

I say work with the dads, not against them, since there’s nothing stopping them from joining anyway and they aren’t given any choice but to either share with a spouse or hide behind a screenname and while using the site any way. If you work with them then they can at least be open about themselves.

Its easy to talk normally on there and use the right pronouns when referring to himself or his spouse. Using DH (Dear Hubby) is how you refer to your spouse and is accepted, cuz no one’s going to say “my wife” without getting someone reporting them to Cafemom. It may be a minority on there, but I’m sure there’s some good dads using the site in cognito and not hurting a dang thing.

Its really dumb.